Keeping Fear in Perspective

1.  Realize fear is a gift.

Fear, a universal emotion, helps us set boundaries around dangerous people, places and things that could do us harm. 


2.  Fear is a tool.

Fear is neither a good or bad emotion; it is one of many tools in our emotional toolbox.  Life gives us the opportunity to practice using it in self-development.


3.  Acknowledge fear.

Fear will continue to set off alarms in your thoughts and physical health until you acknowledge it.  Learn to recognize when you are afraid and thank fear for the information it is providing.


4. Analyze the message fear brings.

Your fearful reaction or trepidation for a future event speaks to you on many levels.  Listen to your thoughts, assumptions and dreams.  Sit with your fear and find out what it’s telling you.


5.  Make a choice about how you want to use the information fear provides.

Decide who you want to be and how you wish to act during a fearful situation.  Be responsive rather than reactive.


6.  Keep a big perspective.

Try to stay open to the fearful experience.  What lessons are there for you to learn about yourself and others?  What are you being taught?


7.  Realize that working with fear is a process.

Fear is a redundant tool.  It will pop up several times to make sure you want to proceed the way that you are.  Know that the process of working with fear requires you to make the same choice over and over again.  This is where the tool of courage “acting despite fear” can help.


8.  Practice compassion.

Be compassionate and patient with yourself.  Fear is not an easy tool to learn to work.  Experience requires us to both fail and succeed in order to receive the fullest picture.  What good does it serve to punish yourself for not succeeding?


9.  Practice openness.

Keep open to the fearful experience.  What do you sense physically and intuitively?  What insight is being brought to you through this experience?


10.  Keep the goal in mind.

The only way around a problem is through it.   Keeping your eye on the desired end results assists you in moving through the experience rather than clinging to the sides of it.